Tuesday, July 29, 2008

Oppression and Politics

I have a couple of things on my mind tonight.

First, I'm kinda pleased with myself right about now. While my husband may see me as a confident, take-no-shit, "Are you certain you want to talk to me with that tone?", stand-up kind of woman, I have not always been so. It has only been through my experience with my ex-husband that I have developed a spine. Knowing how far I allowed myself to be kept down really makes me appreciate my own voice and my ability to make a different choice. Ryan knows with no uncertainty how I expect him to treat me... and he does treat me very well. But... there has always been a residual fear when it comes to my ex. Oppression is a tough thing to kick, even 8 years after I left him. I'm not sure how, but I still have difficulty asserting myself with that man. I know I have no need to be timid... heck... I could literally break him if need be. I find myself being overly accommodating, which was never extended to me... ever. Well tonight I had a bit of a break-through. I had been talking with him for the last week about plans to bring the kids back home from West Virginia, and as per usual, he spent a lot of time talking about plans and excuses. Tonight I decided to take the reins and tell him what the plans are going to be. No anger... no attitude... just fact. I'm coming to get them Saturday because they have to be home by Sunday. No wondering about when they'll come home... no waiting on him to make a decision and then change it at the last minute...no relying on him to have gas money. He responded well... "Um... alright." So this is hopefully the first of many positive experiences in dealing with him.

So the other thing. Tanya had some free sneak-preview passes to see "Swing Vote" so we went. I'm not a Kevin Costner fan, so I probably would have never seen it... even on cable. But, I'm glad I went. I really enjoyed it and it actually stimulated some thought. Gist: Some drunken slob gets the opportunity to cast the deciding ballot in the Presidential race that is completely tied up. Unlikely... but it definitely showed an exaggeration of political pandering that has most of America distrustful of politics. Drunken slob says to a reporter that he thinks gay people should be allowed to marry; next scene shows the republican president in a commercial discussing his commitment for equal rights for gays. Very funny. The democratic candidate did commercials against immigration and abortion... equally funny. But how far from the truth is it really? I mean, I get a good feeling about Obama... but do warm fuzzies mean he is sincere about what he says? I'm definitely going with my feeling because I was right about dub-ya.

Sunday, July 20, 2008


Thursday was our anniversary, and I'm just now getting a chance to discuss my thoughts about it. Thursday night we went out to dinner and Friday night we went to the drive-in to see a couple of movies (Batman is awesome, by the way, wait for Journey to the Center of the Earth to show on cable, and I fell asleep for Hellboy). We've been together for 6 years and married for 4, thus beating my previously-held relationship record (technically 7 and 5, respectively, but I don't want count the time I was separated). I think this gives me the unique position of having a reference for comparison. I whine and moan sometimes, but things are good. It's not that he's so wonderful (he is) or that I'm so great (I am). We work well together. We fit. A team. (Like the Dynamic Duo, but neither of us wants to be Robin, or the Wonder Twins, but that would make us siblings...ew... maybe Yogi and BooBoo?) And each year, life just keeps on getting better. Yay!
P.S. Although Ryan is a definitely a better photographer over all... I think it has been decided that I am a better self-portrait taker!

Monday, July 14, 2008

What's a Triftid?

I had a fabulous weekend. Ryan and I met up with Kevin, Kim, and Tanya and went to IMA to see Rocky Horror. It has been ages since I'd been and we had a blast. Tanya and Ryan, "the virgins," seemed to like it and I remembered more than I thought I would. We definitely have to do this again sometime, but in costume. Let's see... I did some more shopping, went to a birthday party, painted more faces. Life is good. Made it all the more difficult to go back to work today.

Friday, July 11, 2008

New Love

I'd like to take just a moment to pay tribute to my new-found love... Value World, formerly known as Value Village. I'd heard people talking for years about it but had only recently went in to check it out. Today I did some real shopping. I was looking to get a few things to bulk up my "business casual" wardrobe since I'll have to be in it more. I love shopping but was dreading the expense. Lane Bryant is usually the only place I can find anything I like because few retailers sell plus size clothing that is cut in a flattering way... big girls need structure... but I digress. Anyway, Lane Bryant can be very expensive. I was so excited about all the good stuff I found... some of it with the original tags on it. So for $42 I bought 6 shirts, 2 cardigans, 2 pairs of dress pants, 2 brand new pairs of shoes, and a purse. WhoooHoooooo! The only down side is they have no dressing room, but I made due trying on what I could in the aisle. Even better... I get to go back one Sunday and get %50 my whole purchase!!! I say again: WhoooHoooooo!

Wednesday, July 9, 2008

Do ya think Baxter will be one Ogre of a supervisor?

Ha Ha!

It's the mid-staycation point and I thought I'd give all you viewers at home an update. I'm happy to report I've not done nearly as much as I had intended. The plan was to deep clean, paint, and make ready for carpeting. After much internal struggle, I decided I was not going to keep my family from missing out on all the fun, so I've been doing lighter cleaning, laundry, and playing in facepaint. I seriously feel I have found my artistic calling... this stuff is so much fun. I wish I had more kids around to practice on, but mine are gone and I don't know my neighbors.

So as most of you already know, I'm replacing Tobi as supervisor. I got the official job offer on Monday. It's very exciting, but I'm also a little freaked-out as well. The whole FSS thing gives me the willies, but I'm sure I'll manage.

The remainder of my week will probably be spent loafing around doing as little as possible, but still being productive (it's kinda my mantra). I'll lunch with mom at Bugsy's tomorrow on the canal and maybe do some shopping. My niece is having a birthday party on Saturday, which should be fun. Then, painting the living room with the whole family on Sunday! Yea!

Saturday, July 5, 2008

Happy Birthday America!

Today was a good day. I got to sleep in until 10:30. Then we went to he Jungbauer's for a great picnic. JJ has got to make the best steaks in the world... we wait all year for them. Lana and I broke out the face painting and it went well. Then we found a new place and watched the fireworks. We were at a little park off of New York. It was filled with people and someone nearby had great fireworks, and we had a great view of downtown. Here's some of my favorite pics, more will be on my web album. http://picasaweb.google.com/jenniferbaxte/IndependenceDay08